Motivation: What keeps you going?

For the last two years I have been on a quest to get back to being more healthy. I am a single mom with a very active lil boy and need to be the best I can be for him and me! This is me right before I started this journey. 

I was about 55 lbs overweight, facing  back and wrist surgery. I ate nothing healthy. I knew the time had come to do things differently. So July 4, 2016 I put down Dr. Pepper for good… (I went from drinking 6-8 a day to none and started a healthier diet) I made it a point to NOT cheat the first six months. This is different for everyone, but I knew if I cheated I would not have the willpower to stop.  I was doing no workouts at this point either. December of 2016 I had lost 30 pounds but I still had 25 to go. It was time to get really serious. I hired a trainer.

This route is not for everyone, but I found having to answer to someone and send my measurements to him was a HUGE motivator. (I will find a pic to put here just for yall) January 2017, I had joined his six week program. I had forgotten just how much I LOVED the working out. I loved the feel of my muscles being sore. Six weeks flew by. At the end i had lost three inches and was well on my way to loosing the last of my weight.  I tried to make it on my own, I really did.  I ended up messaging him and asking about longer term programs. Having a trainer keeps me grounded, motivated and focused on what I should be doing.

Around April I met another  fitness junkie. I know what you are thinking, what happened to D? Nothing, I kept him, while I started incorporating MORE stuff from my new friend and the results were amazing! I found that he challenged me to do things that I normally would not have even attempted to do. I have NO quit in me when someone challenges me! (I may have fussed a lil though) In all my years I can say that I loved the way I felt and looked during this time the best. I could not have been more excited about my new muscle definition. (Pics of my baby shoulders) 

October- December 2017 was when I got a lil sideways (so if this happens to you don’t panic you can get it back!) I spent these months BUSY with family holidays and only occasionally did I hit my downstairs gym. I will say that getting back in the groove is the hardest part but now two weeks into January it feels like I haven’t left!

The question I get asked the most is, well what’s your goal? I don’t know if I have just one… I want to reach for the stars and never look back. Size matters not to me, I mainly try to focus on how I feel at the end of the day and can I keep up with my four year old! My goal is too motivate people the way my friends motivate me! My advice to you is NEVER give up. Start small and move from there. Need help? There’s no shame in that either. There are a lot of programs out there that you can do alone or online trainers that will help you, because I know better than most how intimidating “going to a gym” can be!

Past adventures that led to the time of my life

Music! I can NOT live my life without music. There is a song for literally everything no matter what you have going on in your life.  For as long as I can remember I have LOVED to sing. I doesn’t seem to matter what kind of music I am singing either.  (so much so that half the time I don’t even know I am doing it)

When I was 22, I saw an ad in the paper about coming to Nashville and auditioning for a record deal. Ha I mean why not? I was single no kids. SO off I go with my mom, curlers in my hair to sit in a room for 7 hours! Listening to people singing their hearts just waiting for my turn. I have never experienced anything like it. Intimidated. I mean  what did I have that they would want? Excited. The most people I had ever sang in front of was church lol. I sang. This is where I met Mrs. Mary Robbin (but we will talk about her later on) I just KNEW this would change my life forever, and in a way I guess it really did. I won a partial contract and that’s where our story will begin!

My poor momma went with me every other week  to Nashville. Voice lessons with Mary Robbin, she was a bundle of life and laughed at everything. She had an amazing life story but that is for another post.

It took three months of planning to actually get to the recording date. I was given 60 songs to go through to pick out my ten. I mean that should be plenty right? I came up with seven that I wanted, but couldn’t settle on the last three. That’s when Mrs. Mary Robbin brought me three songs her husband had written. I was absolutely in love with them! It took a week of recordings, to get all ten tracks. I will never forget Randy (the best sound man), I swear he never lost his patience with me and believe he could have. During the day, we had photo shoots, video shooting, auditions, and shopping. At night, I would sing till I had nothing left to give Randy. (ha there MAYBE still some of those videos floating around)

Next came getting to sing at the Stardust for a small showcase. I was a lil less scared about this one. Surrounded by my family and several of my friends, man I thought I was already famous. Standing backstage waiting to hear my name, the people cheering, the bright lights,  music starts deep breath, THAT feeling! I sang Sylvia “Nobody”. I was doing it living the dream. Or so I thought…

Working full time at the salon, still going to Nashville every other week and now its Christmas Eve. I was outside with my fellow friends when my past rolled up… lol Can I just take a minute and say everything happens for a reason and if you can’t make it work the first time, chances are that it probably won’t work the next time. It seemed innocent enough he just wanted to wish me Merry Christmas and congrats on the new career. One thing lead to another and we got back together.

Four months Mrs. Mary called to tell me there was a showcase I had been invited to where Mercury Records would be attending. I was beyond excited. Love. Career. Wasn’t my life progressing exactly as it was supposed to? A  week before the “big day” I drive to Mark’s house, where he met me and PROPOSED! SO I was getting married. I went to sing, got a call back for six months.  I could not wait to get back and tell him how it went (see the first red flag is he wasn’t there). He said he was so proud! That night we talked of the future: wedding, house, kids the whole nine yards.But this is where the narrative changed, If I wanted to continue this path that we of course would have to wait to get married (sec red flag) BUT he was quick to tell me supported me whatever I decided.

I made the decision to take a “break” to get married. Now that I am grown I am not sure what my decision would be when presented with the question. What I can say is now no matter how old I get I will always look back on these days with a fondness and say  WHAT A RIDE I HAD…

Contentment…

Are you content?

Someone asked me that the other day, and the answer is I have no idea. I am but I am not. I never stop trying to make myself be better or do better. I think sometime last year forgot how to be myself.

I don’t normally do “resolutions”, mostly because who actually sticks to those. However, I was inspired to jot some goals down. Not long term goal but short term goals, something to keep me focused in a time of chaos.

  • more time with Baby J (park days, outing, exploring, or crafts)
  • blog more
  • travel somewhere and explore something new at least once a month
  • start a travel blog
  • get back to working out (I have slacked since October and I miss it) and of course eating healthy again. This one has already begun
  • read 150-200 books this year (long term obviously… probably lol)
  • start a budget for said books
  • laugh a little more (more time with friends)
  • last but not least I would like to sing again even if it is a karaoke night

Whew you would have thought that short list would not have taken me two days to think about. So I will go back to my original question. Am I content? Yes I think I am BUT I will not keep from pushing myself to be better for me and my son.

Here’s where I think people get little lost. Contentment shouldn’t be confused for settling, no matter what that looks like for you (relationships, jobs, material things) Settling is NO good for anyone! So if you are settling don’t. If you are content, good for you! If you are a little lost like I was don’t panic, start a list of goals.

REMEMBER fortune favors the bold!